I think I hate my husband – he refuses to help out around the house and won’t even help keep our dog fed

MARRIAGE isn’t easy – especially when one partner doesn’t seem to be pulling their weight.

One woman feels this way and even admitted to resenting her husband for his supposed lack of help around the house.  

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A woman has reached her breaking point in her marriage and has turned to the internet for advice[/caption]

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She claimed her husband would rather take naps and game all day than help her with household duties[/caption]

“I am coming to resent my husband,” the woman wrote at the top of a post shared to Reddit, adding that she dreads coming home each night from work.

To set the stage, she explained that she works one hour away from home as a first responder and puts in more than 70 hours a week at her job.

Meanwhile, she claimed her husband works 15 minutes away from home as a mechanic and logs about 30 hours per week because he frequently calls out.

She admitted her husband cooks on the days she has worked, but that’s as far as he will go in regard to household duties.

“He refuses to help with chores, or if he does it takes me nagging him for three weeks for him to get them done. 

“He refuses to sweep, mop, hand wash the specialty cookware, wipe counters, clean the bathroom, or empty out the vacuum so I can use it when I get home from work,” she explained.

“If I ask him to get one thing done while I’m [working], it’s never done. 

“I come home to him playing video games. 

“He leaves dirty dishes everywhere, trash everywhere he goes, and doesn’t pick up dirty clothes or anything else out of place,” she continued. 

The absolutely tired woman said she tries to get the house in order on her days off, but there is simply too much to do.

Further exemplifying the differences between her and her husband, she said: “He spends all his free time either napping or playing games, while I’ve not had a consistent three hours to myself to watch even a movie in many weeks.”

Unfortunately, that’s not where hr complaints end.

The last thing that bothered her had to do with their shared dog, who racked up a $1,000 vet bill.

“I paid it with my savings and asked him to help cover some of it as she also needed to be put on special dietary food. 

He said he couldn’t. That it wasn’t his dog,” she recalled.

“He hardly ever helps take care of her. 

“If it weren’t for me, she would literally starve to death.”

At the conclusion of her post, she asked the strangers on the internet to give her advice about what to do about her concerns.

“How can I help him see how badly I’m struggling?” she asked.

“I try to talk to him about it, but he just gets angry and tells me I’m lazy. 

“That I should do more and not expect so much of him.”

“Please help.”

Fellow Redditors heard her call for help, and they minced no words talking about her husband.

“I have good advice here. Take out the t-r-a-s-h,” one user commented.

“Your place will likely be a lot cleaner with just you and your long hours anyways.”

 Is this the life you want to live? Leave that bum!!” another suggested.

“Why would you work a full-time job and come home just to be his maid??”

Yet another sympathizer wrote: “Your husband sounds really entitled to his lazy lifestyle & it seems like it doesn’t matter to him that it’s at your expense both financially, physically, and emotionally.

People like this don’t just change on their own, it takes an external force of which they have no control over to force a change.

What can you do? Stop doing everything for him. 

“Show him you’re tired of being taken advantage of, and taken for granted. … Time to take action.”

While the upset wife didn’t update her post with what she plans to do about the problem, she seemed to agree with commenters that the situation is awful.

“It feels like a have a roommate, not a husband,” she said in reply to one comment.

“I wonder why I need him a lot too… I think I’m too sentimental to see how bad the situation really is.”

Another reader suggested that she didn’t marry the person she thought she did, which would put her on a long list of people experiencing the same issue.

For instance, one woman found out her whole relationship was a lie after discovering her husband only asked her out to get revenge on someone.

Plus, one husband found out his wife had cheated on him 20 years earlier when they were dating and decided to dissolve their relationship because he felt it was based on lies.

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The woman said her husband lets dishes pile up in the sink so she can clean them when she returns from work[/caption]

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She also claimed he refuses to vacuum, mop, or sweep[/caption]