My friend is hiding things from me on Facebook and I want to get to the bottom of it
DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I find out what my friend is hiding? I want to get to the bottom of it.
We have been mates for five years. He is 26 and I am a 25-year-old woman. We meet up for drinks and confide in each other.
I noticed hidden comments on his Facebook posts and pictures from someone I can’t see. I went on an old Facebook profile and found out that this person is his friend’s wife.
I messaged her from my old profile and asked why she blocked me. She just blocked me again.
Then I asked my friend if she had a thing for him. He said no but he would not pursue the blocking issue, as it would upset things.
He seemed cagey, so I said I could ask her husband. He told me to do what I liked. I think something is going on.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Maybe it is, but you have no right to interfere in his life.
He has made it clear that he doesn’t want you to dig deeper. If you persist, you risk damaging or even losing your friendship.
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He is more likely to confide in you if you stop putting pressure on him.
But maybe you should look at why this has so niggled you. Would you like to be more than friends? I’m afraid you had best look elsewhere.