I want to start a family but my boyfriend has lost interest in having sex and blames it on work
DEAR DEIDRE: I WANT to have a baby but my boyfriend has lost interest in sex.
We have been together for four years. We are very different people but we bonded because we are both family-orientated. He is 32 and I’m 27.
We never actually agreed to try for a baby but he knows that I want one and that I have been off the Pill for a year now.
He has just gone off sex. I have tried everything to get him interested but he blames it on work stress.
I do whatever I can to help him but nothing changes and I feel insecure.
I don’t know what to do, because I love him but I am afraid that things will just stay this way.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It could very well be that the reason he has “gone off” sex is that he does not want a baby – at least not now.
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He may feel that you only want to have sex to get pregnant. That can quickly kill off sex drive.
Talk to him about when to try for a baby and listen to what he says.
But do not risk getting pregnant unless both of you really want it.