My partner wants me to ‘gain sexual experience’ with others — as he watches
DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner says I need more sexual experience and wants me to get it by having sex with other men and women – while he watches. I refused.
I am adventurous in bed but he will not stop going on about all these other things he wants me to do.
He even talks about it when we are having sex.
I was a virgin when we met but he had been married before. He is 34, I am 22 and we have been together for five years.
He now spends his spare time in sex chat rooms. I discovered he has created an account on a group-sex site and has posted naked photos of me.
When he cheated on me, I foolishly forgave him. He is now sharing naked photos of himself with an ex-girlfriend and saying he still loves her.
I do love him but I am wondering whether I should give him an ultimatum.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It has gone beyond that. You deserve so much better from a partner. Give him a month or two to change, if you must, but I would be surprised if he does.
Look at why you have put up with this for so long.
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