I’m fed up with my fiancée babysitting for her family evenings and weekends
DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner loves her nephews and nieces and her family are taking advantage.
Her brother and sister have five children between them aged from six to 11. When they need someone to mind them in the evenings and at weekends, they let the kids decide who.
Their first choice is always my partner and she always says yes. I don’t go because I’m just not into kids.
The school holidays start later this month and they are already trying to arrange how much she can take care of their children.
She is 27, I am 28 and we have been together for four years. I am fed up and my fiancée is beginning to feel the same but doesn’t know how to handle it without causing offence.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your partner sounds like a lovely person – children are good judges – but that doesn’t mean she has to be a pushover.
Map out between you how much time she wants to spend babysitting.
When she is asked to babysit more than that she should just say, “No, I’m sorry I can’t babysit then” and stick to it. But try going with her sometimes.
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