Boldly throwing this out there - sexless marriage help
Boldly going where I probably shouldn't (ie waaaaaaaay TMI), but hopefully someone has some experience and wisdom.
Failing that I'll settle for some quality wise cracks.
Basic situation. Everything as OK as you could expect after almost 20 years together, but after first child things have changed. Wife has had a few medical issues since baby (now 2.5 years old). Erratic periods. Wild hormone issues. Lack of libido (of any sort, not just me). I've been seeing a counselor. My wife has seen a sex-therapy person (WTF filter? A therapy person with an 'apist' gets flagged?).
We're pretty much looking at a sexless relationship. Anything beyond a snuggle and a cuddle risks becoming an awkward teary apology fest. She's wonderful and we love each other (ie absolutely no interest in separating), but it isn't entirely ideal.
WTF do I do now? I seem to be in a position of not being able to win no matter what i do.
Options:
- hold tight and see what happens, avoiding any hint of sexual activity to avoid trouble
- accept that this is what it is and masturbate a lot
- consider the odd visit to 'professionals' to satisfy the carnal urge
- other...
Foo, don't let me down!
Failing that I'll settle for some quality wise cracks.
Basic situation. Everything as OK as you could expect after almost 20 years together, but after first child things have changed. Wife has had a few medical issues since baby (now 2.5 years old). Erratic periods. Wild hormone issues. Lack of libido (of any sort, not just me). I've been seeing a counselor. My wife has seen a sex-therapy person (WTF filter? A therapy person with an 'apist' gets flagged?).
We're pretty much looking at a sexless relationship. Anything beyond a snuggle and a cuddle risks becoming an awkward teary apology fest. She's wonderful and we love each other (ie absolutely no interest in separating), but it isn't entirely ideal.
WTF do I do now? I seem to be in a position of not being able to win no matter what i do.
Options:
- hold tight and see what happens, avoiding any hint of sexual activity to avoid trouble
- accept that this is what it is and masturbate a lot
- consider the odd visit to 'professionals' to satisfy the carnal urge
- other...
Foo, don't let me down!