I finally found my soulmate but she’s got very fat legs and a bad hairstyle

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER many years searching, I have finally found someone perfect for me.

She is a sweet, caring girl and I feel she’s my soulmate except for two things – she has very fat legs and a hairstyle that never looks right.

I love being with her but I don’t lust after her. I love the person she is but she just doesn’t do it for me.

I can’t bear to think of her not in my life but I need a good sex life as well. She’s 25 and I’m 28. The other thing is that I want to sleep with other women. I haven’t so far as I don’t want to hurt her.

DEIDRE SAYS: You may think she’s your soulmate but that’s not what I’m hearing. If this was real love you wouldn’t be putting barriers up and wouldn’t be thinking of cheating.

I’m wondering what your parents’ relationship was like. My e-leaflet, Finding The Right Partner For You, includes sources of counselling help.

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