When the house is empty I love dressing up in my fiancée’s clothes but I can’t tell her

DEAR DEIDRE: IF I finish work early, I get such a buzz knowing the house will be empty and I can dress up in my fiancée’s clothes.

I am 46, she is 39 and we have been together for three years. I’ve not yet plucked up the courage to tell her about my cross-dressing.

Now I am terrified it will get back to my boss and my partner. I love her and my job. What do I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: Wanting a witness and having an exhibitionist streak are common ingredients of cross-dressing.

Whether or not your boss finds out and tells your partner, it is time she heard it from you.

Cross-dressing makes you no less of a man but it is not what she signed up for.

You can get advice from the Beaumont Society, which supports partners too. See beaumontsociety. org.uk or call 01582 412220.

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