I love my partner but the sex is terrible and he’ll be offended if I say something

DEAR DEIDRE: EVERYTHING is going well with my partner and I think we have a future together – but the sex is not good for me.

We have been together for four months and we get on great. He is 22, I am 23, and we both want good sex.

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I can see a future with my partner but the sex is never enjoyable and I can’t carry on pretending[/caption]

But he can’t be bothered with foreplay.

When I do not get turned on instantly, our sex sometimes feels really uncomfortable for me.

I do not know whether he would engage in foreplay, as I have not actually asked him. I feel too nervous to and I have no idea how to bring it up.

I don’t want him to think he is not good enough in bed.

DEIDRE SAYS: If you are close enough to have sex, you should be close enough to talk about it.

Tell him you want to enhance your love life and you are both going to have more satisfying fun if he takes the time to get you aroused.

My e-leaflet on Exciting Foreplay explains how he can become expert.

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