My fella wanted a threesome with his mate… I now want to bed just his huge mate
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend was the one who wanted us to have a threesome with his mate – but his pal is so amazing I now want sex with just him all the time.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. I am 23 and he is 26. I work at a bar where he drinks with his mates. He is a flirty, cheeky sort of guy and caught my eye as soon as I started there after leaving art school.
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He suggested I move in with him for lockdown. It was a bit of a risk but we have got on great.
He shares the flat and luckily I get on OK with his flatmate, who is 27.
Our sex life kept getting better and better with us able to spend so much time together. We’re pretty adventurous sexually and tried lots of different stuff.
One day he asked how I felt about having a threesome.
I was a bit wary but said we could try, and asked who he was thinking of. It was his flatmate, of course. I bet they’d already talked about it but I was happy it was someone I knew.
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We had some drinks to get us in the mood then started getting into touching one another.
This flatmate is huge down there — twice the size of my boyfriend. It was such a turn-on.
We had all kinds of fun, and I had full sex with both of them.
It seemed like we all had a great time and there was no weird atmosphere the next morning, which was a relief.
We all agreed to do it again some time but it hasn’t happened yet. I’m not sure if my boyfriend has realised how attracted I was to his mate and is now backing off the idea.
I can’t stop thinking about how amazing the friend is physically, though my boyfriend is by far the nicer guy. I would not want to go out with his mate, just to have sex with him.
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DEIDRE SAYS: All the threesome has achieved is to make you feel discontented with your relationship with your boyfriend – which you were happy about before – as well as run the risk of passing on the virus.
Maybe you see yourselves as being in a bubble together but do you know what your flatmate gets up to, where he goes and who with?
If you want your relationship with your boyfriend to last and succeed, shut out any ideas of getting sexual again with his mate.
Focus on the fun and good feelings the two of you can share together. The draw of his friend will die away as long as you don’t nourish it.
Good sex for women doesn’t depend on penis size, so your boyfriend can be just as good a lover as his friend.
My e-leaflets Manhood Too Small? and Thrilling A Woman In Bed can help you both.
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