I’m a mom and I let my kids have meltdowns in public – adults hate it but I believe I’m helping them in the long run

A SCREAMING child is likely not something you want to hear at any time of the day.  However, one mom said she allows her kids to scream, cry, and feel all of their emotions because she believes she’s helping them in the long run.  “If you wanna freak out the adults in your life, allow […]

A SCREAMING child is likely not something you want to hear at any time of the day. 

However, one mom said she allows her kids to scream, cry, and feel all of their emotions because she believes she’s helping them in the long run. 

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A mother has shared her method for parenting her kids when they get emotional[/caption]

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She claimed it disturbs adults, but she thinks it will help her kids throughout life[/caption]

“If you wanna freak out the adults in your life, allow your kids to express their emotions,” the mother, who goes by @courtneyb_says online, said at the top of her social media video. 

“When my kids feel strongly about something, I let them have their emotions even if it looks like crying. 

“But if you watch the other adults in the room, they start getting so nervous, they try to distract the kid with food, or with toys, or with a funny joke,” Courtney explained. 

“And the thing is, our job as parents or caregivers or adults in a child’s life isn’t to stop them or distract them from having emotions. 

“Our job is to teach them coping skills.”

She said coping skills are key because if you fill kids’ lives with distractions, they won’t know how to process their emotions as adults.

“They’re gonna look for other coping mechanisms and other distractions to numb that pain because they never learned how,” she concluded. 

Courtney’s video was met with positive responses and even stories from people who have seen the consequences of childhood distraction firsthand. 

“My mother-in-law: ‘My kids never would have acted that way!’

 “…that’s why my husband can’t even tell me how he feels ever,” one user complained.

“My dad used to punish me for crying if he thought that my reason wasn’t good enough.

“Now as [an] adult I’m over-emotional,” another person shared.

Courtney’s video even made one person realize she was a child who was distracted away from her true emotions.

“You just explained why I can never confront an emotion head-on omg,” she stated, seemingly shocked.

Courtney is just one of several mothers taking traditional parenting standards and flipping them on their heads.

For instance, another mom said she does not use the conventional “no TV” punishment for her kids.

Instead, she gives her kids a punishment related to their bad behavior so they can better learn from their wrongdoings.

Another parent revealed she does not force her kids to hug family members if they don’t want to so they can learn about boundaries and respect early on.

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The mom claimed if parents don’t let their kids work through their emotions, they will never know how to as adults[/caption]