My wife’s sister hates me and their close relationship is ruining our marriage
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife’s sister has been a thorn in my side for many years.
I always feel that she has despised me and that I’ll never be good enough for her sister. They’re very close – suffocatingly so.
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I’m 35, my wife is 34 and we have a five-year-old daughter.
Her sister is 35 and always gets involved in our relationship when it isn’t her place to do so.
She’s always quick to tell my wife things about me that she doesn’t agree with. My mother-in-law can be very similar.
If ever I’m around them and my wife isn’t present, they later feed her information about things I may have said or done.
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If they have any issues with me or how I am towards my daughter, I’d rather they speak to me than go behind my back.
It causes the most horrible arguments between me and my wife. It’s as if her mum and sister do it on purpose to upset things between us.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself be sucked into their drama or take what they say personally.
When others criticise, it says more about them than you.
Do your best to limit contact with them if necessary.
You and your wife need to be united, even though she shares a unique bond with her sister.
You can’t control what your in-laws say, but you can control how you react.
Take what they say with a pinch of salt and avoid flying off the handle until you hear what your wife has to say.