I might cheat on my husband with my school friend who was in my BDSM sex dream
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER bumping into an old school boyfriend, I had the wildest sex dream and even woke my husband up. Now I’m wondering if it’s more than just a fantasy. Could he be my soulmate? I can’t stop thinking about him. I’m 44 and have been with my husband, 51, since I was 18. […]
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER bumping into an old school boyfriend, I had the wildest sex dream and even woke my husband up.
Now I’m wondering if it’s more than just a fantasy. Could he be my soulmate? I can’t stop thinking about him.
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I’m 44 and have been with my husband, 51, since I was 18.
For the past 26 years, we’ve been really happy. We’ve got a gorgeous house, two good jobs and three beautiful daughters.
But something changed when I ran into my first boyfriend.
He was popular at school — the best-looking guy in our year and he had a great sense of humour. We briefly dated in our last year.
Last month, I was volunteering at a Covid vaccination centre. My jaw dropped when I saw this guy walk over to my table.
After his jab, he popped back over to the registration table where I was working and asked if we could meet for a coffee to “reminisce”.
I didn’t think it would be any more than a friendly catch-up, so I agreed. We met the next day, and coffee became a three-hour liquid lunch.
The conversation didn’t stop and we were both very flirtatious.
That night, as I lay in bed, I couldn’t stop thinking about him. He was just as gorgeous as ever.
I ended up having a sex dream about him — one that put Fifty Shades to shame. There were whips, chains, oil and hot wax.
Apparently, I was enjoying myself so much that I woke my husband up with the noise. Luckily, he assumed I was dreaming about him.
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The issue is, now I can’t stop thinking about this man, and that dream, to the point where I’m wondering if this is more than just a fantasy.
My heart is telling me to have at least one night with him, but my head is saying don’t be stupid.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve had one lunch with this man and you’re considering throwing away decades of a loving relationship, your family unit and home.
Slow down and look at this encounter for what it was – a lovely catch-up that could get seriously out of hand.
It’s understandable that you felt flattered receiving this attention but please don’t make a rash move that you’d regret forever.
Perhaps you and your husband have started to take one another for granted. That your head has been so easily turned suggests your sex life may need a little TLC?
My support packs, Relationship MOT and 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex, will help you to spice things up in and outside the bedroom.