I’m a psychologist – the best way to dump someone and when you should block your ex

HAVE you ever dated someone way past the expiry date of the relationship out of fear?

It can be an anxiety-ridden task to dump or reject someone, but it’s something that must be done to ensure that you don’t waste any of your or their time.

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Speaking to Fashion Journal, Michelle Pal gave some dating advice to help you navigate breakups and rejection when you’re the one doing the dumping.

Addressing the fear that comes with women rejecting a man, Pal stated: “Statistically speaking, men are much more likely than women to stalk, intimidate, or become financially, emotionally or physically abusive after a breakup or rejection than a woman is.

“So, there is always an element of fear for safety also as we don’t [know] how another person will respond to the breakup.”

To deal with this fear, Pal recommended the following: “Remind yourself that rejection has and always will be a normal part of everyday life for all of us – we will give rejections and we will be rejected.

Pal also stated that any conditioning to be “too nice” and overly responsible for others’ emotions should be let go of.

This is done by reminding yourself that you’re not in the wrong and you’re entitled to choose who you’re compatible with.

This will mean rejecting a person or two along your journey, and according to Pal, “you can’t be responsible for how they feel or react to that rejection.”

Additionally, Pal added: “It’s also really helpful to remember that rejecting someone is doing them a favor in the long-term as it gives them the opportunity to go and find someone who is a better match for them and who might like them a lot more than what you liked them.”

Pal also spoke on exactly when to block your ex: “Set any boundaries that you need to – for example, you can tell the person that you wish to keep the peace and don’t want to be yelled at or offended and that if it continues you will need to block them.”

If you’re looking for some dating advice on the opposite end, a dating pro shared how they get their dates without apps.

He started by detailing where you can meet girls.

“To find a girl you want to talk to, it can be almost anywhere. Ex: bookstore, grocery store, thrifting stores, restaurants, or on your walk to work.

“I would avoid doing this at gyms, outdoors at night, or when a girl has her earbuds in.”

He also stated that catching someone off guard is the “worst thing you can do” and that it will make you end up in “creep-ville.”

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You can’t be responsible for how a person feels or how they react to the rejection of being dumped[/caption]