I’m dreading my wedding night because I’m scared having sex will hurt me

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a 31-year-old woman and have never had sex because I’m terrified it’s going to hurt. I’ve always told my partners that I’m waiting for marriage. Now I’m due to tie the knot in June but I’m not convinced I’ll be able to do it then. I think my fears stem from hearing […]

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a 31-year-old woman and have never had sex because I’m terrified it’s going to hurt.

I’ve always told my partners that I’m waiting for marriage.

Now I’m due to tie the knot in June but I’m not convinced I’ll be able to do it then.

I think my fears stem from hearing my sister and mum talk graphically about their first times.

Both of them talked about bleeding. I’ve never even had foreplay with a guy because I’m nervous I’ll end up crying out in pain.

I don’t want this to ruin our wedding night.

Have you got any advice?

DEIDRE SAYS: You’re not alone in worrying that your first time will hurt.

But, if you’re with someone caring and considerate, it shouldn’t hurt at all and at worst should only involve a little discomfort.

Foreplay is the key to making sex enjoyable – it is vital your partner ensures you are properly aroused.

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