I feel rejected after girl I adore told me she just wanted to be mates

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I told my friend I have feelings for her, she said she liked me too – but not in that way. We agreed to be friends but that is not what I want. I only offered to be friends because I want her in my life. When I brought the subject up […]

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I told my friend I have feelings for her, she said she liked me too – but not in that way.

We agreed to be friends but that is not what I want.

I only offered to be friends because I want her in my life.

When I brought the subject up again the other day, she said the same thing. Why won’t she give me a try?

I am a 24-year-old guy, while she is 22.

If she likes me, why wouldn’t she want to be more than friends and date?

I am so confused. I want her to be my girlfriend but clearly she doesn’t want that.

DEIDRE SAYS: I know it hurts but you cannot make someone feel something they do not.

You would be much better off putting your energies into meeting new friends, rather than hoping your friend will somehow change her mind.

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