My partner says that if I don’t slim, he’ll leave me – but I think it’s OK to be big
DEAR DEIDRE: IF I don’t slim down, my partner says he’ll leave me.
When we met I was 13st, but my weight has always fluctuated and, after we got together, I piled the pounds back on. I’m now 16st.
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I’m 27 and have a three-year-old son from a previous relationship.
My partner is 30. We met two years ago.
He talks about how good I used to look and questions why I think it’s OK to be so big and why I can’t change.
I’ve tried every diet. The weight comes off but just as quickly goes back on.
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I went through a very violent and toxic relationship with my son’s biological father.
He fat-shamed me to the point I hated myself.
I didn’t want to be here but pulled myself out of that for my son and began to love my body again.
I don’t any more, though. I feel pressured and sad when I’m hungry.
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