I can’t help having wild dreams about getting with my best friend’s new man
DEAR DEIDRE: DREAMING about having sex with my best friend’s boyfriend is making me worried and excited at the same time.
I’ve got a boyfriend who is 21 and I’m 23.
We’ve been together for a year. My best pal has started dating a guy who is 26 and he’s so fit.
She’s 23 too, and she’s very happy.
I started having dreams that I was being filmed having wild sex, like somebody in a porn movie.
When I saw the face of the fella I was with, it was my friend’s partner.
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I have had the dream three times now. I’ve never even felt anything for him before, but now I’m looking at him in a different light. I’ve hardly even talked to him.
I can’t confide in my own boyfriend about my dreams but our sex life has gone up a notch.
Do you think that deep down, I want to be with this other guy?
DEIDRE SAYS: Not necessarily, but it could be a case of thinking about the forbidden fruits – in other words, you find something very desirable, more so because you can’t have it.
It is really no different from a sexual fantasy and, as long as you don’t act on it, then you’re not causing any harm.
Keep it in your head and enjoy the enhanced sex with your boyfriend. It’s normal to have fantasies about people other than your partner, but the red line is whether you act on them.
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