Best man’s wedding speech joke exposed my new husband as serial cheat

DEAR DEIDRE: IT was the first I had heard about my husband cheating on me – when his best man joked about it during his speech at our wedding.

He told how my now husband had sent pals graphic reports on his many conquests while away travelling on his own.

It was news to me, and I feel devastated and humiliated.

While I put a brave face on for the rest of my wedding day, as soon as we woke up the next day I demanded the truth.

I am 31 and my husband is 33.

Two years ago he went solo- travelling around south-east Asia with my blessing.

He had become burned out while working as a management consultant and did not know what to do with his life.

So I suggested he go backpacking for six months.

He had an amazing time and we regularly spoke.

I even went out and stayed with him for three weeks when he was in Vietnam.

I thought the experience had strengthened our relationship and helped us appreciate each other more.

Little did I know he was shagging his way around the world and even sent his mates detailed reports on the women he was having sex with.

So when his best man teased during his speech, “We don’t expect a report card from your wedding night — like when you were in Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Vietnam, Indonesia and Laos — but just make sure you do give her the same loving attention,’ my heart tumbled.

I blurted out: “But we were still together then!”

My husband, looking shaken, glowered at his best man and insisted: “He’s just joking.”

But there it was, the damage was done.

The next day my new husband admitted he’d slept with ten other women but said none of them meant anything and he was “just getting frustration out”.

He says it was in the past and we now need to move on.

That was over a month ago. I veer between feeling I will be able to get over it and feeling utterly devastated and confused.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s so unfortunate you learned of your husband’s infidelity in such a public way, and at a time that should have been pure happiness.

But, however publicly humiliating the event, this issue is between you and your husband.

So try to focus on him to help you decide whether you have a future together or not.

I’m sure he would like to move forward but in order to do that he needs to start with a heartfelt apology.

Rather than dismiss his flings, he will only truly win your trust if he can recognise he needs to make it up to you.

My support pack Cheating Can You Get Over It? will help you both think this through.