Five dating red flags never to ignore – and it’s bad news if someone splurges their secrets too early, from an expert
DATING someone new is always a little bit nerve-wracking, as you try and figure out whether you’re actually compatible without being too picky.
So one helpful dating coach has compiled his list of the five early red flags you can look for when you start seeing someone that might imply they’re not for you.
Jacob Lucas is a relationship expert who regularly shares tips to help improve your dating experience with the 767k followers on his TikTok account @JacobLucas101.
And in a recent clip, he informed viewers of the “five early red flags you should NEVER ignore when dating a new man”.
His first warning is against boys who tell you secrets about their life that will make you pity them early on.
The relationships guru points out that “people who have been through genuine hard times in their lives very rarely share that with people who they just met”.
“Most of the time they will do this to see how you emotionally respond to them,” he explains, “and if they get the reaction that they are looking for, then they will think that you’re easy to manipulate.”
The second thing he says to look out for is men who talk badly about their ex on early dates.
“It’s a red flag if he calls his ex ‘crazy’, blames his ex for everything, or overshares their relationship with you,” he argues.
“It shows he is socially unaware, because he should know that you don’t want to talk about his ex when you just met him.”
The third no-no is if the person you’re dating is massively indecisive.
“You’ll be the one planning all the dates,” Jacob points out, “and you’ll be the one making all the big decisions in the relationship.”
“It will get EXHAUSTING for you,” he concludes.
The fourth issue that the dating whizz suggests keeping an eye out for is if they talk badly about their friends.
“He’s the one freely choosing to hang out with these people,” says Jacob, “and if he’s calling them idiots, well, nine times out of ten he’s gonna be an idiot himself.”
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
His final piece of advice is to truly consider your life goals, even at an early stage.
“If you are open minded and you like to grow as a person and you have ambition,” Jacob explains, “and you start dating a man who has none of these traits, then you two will not work as a couple.”
“You either grow TOGETHER, or you grow APART,” he concludes.
His clip racked up a huge 74k views, with users heading to the comments to share their dismal dating experiences.
“Where was this five years ago,” one wrote, “all true then, still true now.”
“You either grow together or you grow apart,” another agreed. “That is going in my self-improvement notebook.”
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