I want my fiance to fire her bridesmaid over her drunken comment – it’s totally split opinion, some say I’m a red flag
A GROOM-TO-BE has raged that he wants his fiance to get rid of one of her bridesmaids after overhearing a drunken comment.
He explained that his fiance’s friends started gossiping about him when he went to help a female friend who was being sick.
The man penned a lengthy Reddit post revealing that he’s set to marry the woman of his dreams next June.
He said his “very close friend” from college has been staying with them for five months, following a traumatic breakup.
His friend had fallen pregnant after years of thinking that she wouldn’t be able to have children but her boyfriend wanted her to have an abortion.
“Their relationship got very strained and she ended up having a miscarriage,” he wrote.
“One week after, she found out her boyfriend was having an emotional affair with a coworker.
“They broke up and she ended up also getting into a massive fight with her family.
“Obviously I moved her into my place ASAP and while she was definitely struggling for a while I’m glad to say she seems to be slowly healing.
“A few nights ago my fiancé had some of her friends over, all of which are bridesmaids.
“My friend joined them and all of them ended up getting pretty drunk.
“My fiancé falls asleep pretty fast when she’s drunk so I carried her up to our room and tucked her in so I could take care of everyone else.”
The man said he stayed with his female friend for about 20 minutes in the bathroom while she was puking.
He overheard one of his fiance’s friends comment that he was helping because he wanted to “get in her pants.”
“The other girls around her immediately told her off (they’re all aware of my friend’s situation) and I just stood obstructed on the stairway trembling in anger,” he said.
“I managed to calm down temporarily and send them all home in Ubers.
“I had offered to drive them before but in all honesty, I felt so angry I did not want to be in that position.
“Three days later and I’m still angry.
“I genuinely don’t ever want to be in the same room as this woman ever again let alone have her eight feet away as I say my vows.”
The groom-to-be said he hadn’t discussed the situation with his fiance but planned to ask to remove her from having a role in their wedding.
Responses to the post were divided if the man’s request to get rid of the bridesmaid was unreasonable.
“Your fiance’s friend basically said, ‘You aren’t trustworthy and you’re a wanna be cheater.’” one person wrote.
“Sorry, but that ‘friend’ really disrespected you by implying your character sucked and she did it behind your back and in your house.
“Drunk or not, no excuse.
“I would probably die on this hill. If your fiancee stands up for the friend and makes excuses – that’s a huge red flag.
“You need to marry someone who would find that behavior absolutely unacceptable.”
“NTA [not the a**hole],” another said.
“She basically said you wanted to SA [sexually assault] your friend considering she was intoxicated to the point of throwing up.
“Even if you don’t consider it that extreme it was straight-up rude trouble-making. I would tell your fiancé, that her friend is trifling.
“I absolutely think both people getting married have the right to veto members of the wedding party if it would make them feel uncomfortable on their special day.”
However, other responses to the post argued the man should ignore the bridesmaid’s comment to avoid conflict with his fiance.
“I think you’re WAY overreacting here dude,” one person commented.
“A drunken statement that was shot down by all her friends immediately and you’re still mad three days later?
“You’re not being a little overly sensitive, you’re being WAY oversensitive.
“Say nothing to your fiancé and get over this. It’s a non-issue that you’re threatening to turn into a huge red flag issue for your fiancé.”
“Your reaction to a dumb, drunken joke seems way over the top,” another agreed.
“In all honestly, it would make me start to wonder if there actually is something going on with your friend.”
“IDK [I don’t know] if my fiancé said he wanted to ban a close friend from attending the wedding over a drunken comment like this it would set off alarm bells immediately,” a third added.
“It comes off as really defensive regarding you and your friend’s relationship.”
