People are stunned I picked my dad to walk me down the aisle given our background – I wanted my mom but he kicked off
A BRIDE has regrets about who she chose to walk her down the aisle.
The last-minute decision ended up causing a mess on her wedding day, leaving large rifts in her family.
The anonymous Redditor u/Theonlyway101810 shared the story in a post.
She explained that she married her boyfriend of 13 years months ago in November.
Due to their locations, both of her divorced parents had to fly out for the ceremony.
“When planning my wedding, I had always planned on having BOTH my parents walk me down the aisle, especially considering my mom was the one who raised me,” she said.
Her wish, however, ended up being a lot more “complicated” than she had hoped, considering her parents’ relationship.
“My parents had a messy divorce due to him lying and overall just being abusive,” she explained.
“Because of this I waited last minute to tell my dad about the plan, but of course, his new wife was not ok with the plan and forced him to say no.”
To make matters worse, breaking the news to her mom was a disaster.
“She was already nervous about my dad being there so naturally, she starts crying when I tell her this,” she said.
The bride decided to settle on an idea proposed by her sister.
“Our dad walks me down the aisle then my mom stands in the middle and she walks me the rest of the way,” she revealed.
“We thought the idea was stupid but it was either that or her not walking me down the aisle at all.”
Despite the fix, feelings were still hurt.
“There has been insane repercussions because of this, my mother STILL feels like I betrayed her,” she said.
People were shocked that she made the decision she did, especially considering it was her big day.
“All the money spent on this wedding, all the work and effort. Just to be a doormat to a s**t dad’s new wife. Your dad doesn’t have the balls to support your simple request on your wedding day?” said one critic.
You gotta stand up for yourself. You have to stand up for your dreams and desires. Especially on your wedding day. It’s what it is all about!
“He would rather give his wife the satisfaction than support your simple request. And you said…okay?
“You’re the a**hole… to yourself. At the very least. You gotta stand up for yourself. You have to stand up for your dreams and desires. Especially on your wedding day. It’s what it is all about!”
Others agreed that the bride should’ve stuck by her mom’s side.
“You gave your abusive dad another chance to abuse your mom. You gave your stepmom a chance to abuse your mom. You didn’t stand up for your mom,” said one viewer.
After the criticism, the bride reflected on her decision but still felt that she had no choice.
“I understand now that I was in the wrong and that I made bad and rash decisions,” she said.
“But I think people with divorced parents will understand where I’m coming from with inviting my dad. And saying that I don’t love my mom is kind of insane.
“All of this happened the night before the wedding and it was a destination wedding, the whole thing would have been an even bigger mess if I HAD told him to screw off.”