Should I feel guilty for my flirty work lunch?
DEAR DEIDRE: A work lunch with a gorgeous colleague was amazing – but now I’m worrying that I was borderline cheating.
I even had butterflies in my stomach as we walked to the pub, even though nothing happened, after all, I’m a married man.
I love my wife so much. She’s 33 and I’m 35. We are expecting our third child in May.
My colleague is a lovely woman of 28.
We work quite closely together and text one another a lot about work.
The thing is, she is single and I know if I were too, I’d be trying to date her. We have the same interests and she’s recently moved over to my department because she wants to learn about my kind of work.
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I have given her my time and she wanted to go for lunch as a thank you – her treat. It was lovely to chat with her in a more relaxed setting and I know she was flirting with me as I was with her.
We’ve been professional and I’d never cheat on my wife but our sex life isn’t great at the moment because of pregnancy complications.
I can’t get this colleague out of my head.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: We can all fancy other people even in the most committed of relationships.
Attraction to another person can’t be turned off like a light switch.
You’re aware of your feelings but also of your love for your wife.
Continue to leave your work friendship as professional so that you don’t compromise yourself.
Instead, channel your energy into devoting as much time to your children and make sure that your wife feels supported and cared for.
That way when she’s feeling up to it, she will be likely to want to resume having a sex life with you.
My support pack Love Or Lust? will help you to put things in perspective.