Am I a bad person for wanting a casual relationship

DEAR DEIDRE: Does it make me a bad person that I want to find a friend just to have a bit of fun with?

I don’t want to get a reputation for myself but lots of people have friends-with-benefits arrangements.

I’m a woman of 41 and I divorced three years ago. I don’t miss my husband but I really miss the sex. He was a great lover.

I’ve tried dating sites but I haven’t had much luck. A younger man of 25 has agreed to meet me but he doesn’t want a relationship.

He says he wants to have sex with me. I’ve said yes but I am nervous – I’ve never done anything like this before.

Am I going to be at risk by putting myself out there?

DEIDRE SAYS: If you want to start a commitment-free sexual relationship then that is entirely your business.

But it is important to stay safe. Before you agree to meet anyone, video call them and check their social media profiles to check they are legitimate.

Also, meet in a public place first so if you don’t get a good vibe you can leave. And make sure you tell someone you trust where you will be.

But if you do want a relationship, hang on for that. Many singletons find dating apps hopeless, so try networking with friends and push yourself gently to join new groups.

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