I regret having kids – I miss my old life and pre-baby body, I get so bored and wish my husband hadn’t talked me into it
A GIRL mom has admitted that she regrets having kids for many reasons, including how it changed her appearance and lack of a social life.
She revealed that she wishes her husband hadn’t convinced her to be a mother because motherhood is not what she expected or wanted.
New mother BendyGirl85 posted her post-partum concerns in the online community What to Expect.
She posted in the group because it was an anonymous platform and felt like she couldn’t share how she felt with people in her life.
She clarified that she loves her daughter “to bits” and would never want her to feel unwanted.
But she couldn’t hold back her feelings any longer.
KID CONCERNS
“I regret having kids. I never wanted kids but after I met my husband, he wanted them and I let him and society in general talk me into it,” she explained.
After pregnancy and childbirth, she said that her life changed, while her husband’s did not.
She clarified that she doesn’t have post-partum depression and simply misses her “old life” from before she had children.
“I get so bored at home looking after a baby all day,” she admitted.
She is also upset because she doesn’t fit into her old clothes that she still loves.
“I miss my pre-baby body,” she added.
WEIGHT WORRIES
The anonymous poster revealed that she has put on over 20 pounds and is three dress sizes bigger than her pre-baby body.
“I am trying to lose weight, but I can barely fit in a 20-minute workout each day,” she said.
Taking care of a child is not only time-consuming but also tiresome.
“I miss being able to sleep when I want to, and weekend sleep-ins,” she admitted.
She also said that she has “never been one to play with kids,” and that hasn’t changed since having one of her own.
SIMPLE LIFE
“People say ‘Just do what you used to do before you had kids, but do it with them,’ but I can’t,” she explained.
Before having her daughter, she enjoyed solitary activities like reading, gardening, hiking, traveling, and camping often with her husband.
“Although technically you can do those with kids, it’s much more difficult and not the same experience,” she added.
The two times the married couple went camping after their daughter was born, she didn’t enjoy the experience because she was looking after her.
After airing out her feelings, she asked others in the family-planning community if it would get any better in the future or come with a “new set of problems and worries.”
Several mothers offered supportive commentary and feedback.
“Is returning to work an option? I love my baby boy, but love him even more when I can have some time away and use my brain at work,” one suggested.
“We have so much fun before and after work and on my days off. I feel we get more quality time and I’m more present.”
“I’d like to say that your feelings are valid. I’m sorry that this is how you’re feeling and also glad that you’re being honest with yourself,” another commented.
“Being a parent is just a new stage in life and you’re right, nothing is ever the same.”