Hashem Yikom Damo
Yisrael Yudkin, 22 years old from Kfar Chabad, was killed in battle in Gaza.
The family wants the traditional hyd on the grave. HYD stands for Hashem Yikom Damo - God should avenge his blood. The IDF is saying, sorry we don't do that. You can't put that on the top of his grave but you can put it on the side stone.
I'm not sure how but somehow this has also turned into a haredi/non-haredi issue, with many taking a side ...