My friends all say I’m ‘crazy’ for my wedding lunch decision – I think it’s smart but people expect ‘chaos’
FOR many people, the day they officially tie the knot with their partner is one of the happiest days of their life.
One bride-to-be has sparked a debate after saying she isn’t even booking the day off work when she gets married.
Taking to Mumsnet, she asked people for their opinion to not taking annual “leave on the day we marry.”
She admitted many people had told her she was “crazy” for not taking the day to celebrate, but the bride-to-be said she had her reasons.
The bride explained: “DP [darling partner] and I get married next month.
“It’s a large event with many guests, but the religious ceremony isn’t legally binding.
“Because of this, DP and I are heading to our local registry office next week to do the legal part of the marriage.
“We don’t want this formality to overshadow our wedding next month, which we consider the actual day we marry.
“So, for the registry wedding, we aren’t having guests (just two acquaintances as witnesses), no vows or ring exchange, and we’d planned to work that day as usual (it’s over lunchtime).
“When sharing our plans with friends and family, we’re told we’re crazy for not taking the day off to celebrate together.
“But to me, this day is merely a legal formality.”
She said her mum had insisted the day will be “special and emotional” and it would be “silly” of her to not “acknowledge it as we’ll never get that day back.”
The engaged woman’s post was quick to rack up numerous comments from people with strong views.
One said: “Take the day off.”
Another added: “I also agree with her, even if you just go for some lunch and spend the afternoon together it’s still a special day.”
A third chimed in: “You are getting married not popping to the post office.”
However, some people agreed with her that the signing day isn’t a big deal.
How long does a registry office ceremony take?
REGISTRY office weddings are typically brief, lasting about 20-30 minutes.
You and your guests are usually asked to arrive at the town hall at least 30 minutes beforehand.
Before the ceremony, you and your partner will each have a separate interview.
After the ceremony, you generally have about 10 minutes for confetti and photographs on the steps.
One wrote: “Sounds reasonable to me.
“If that bit is essentially just signing paperwork and not a celebration then why try to make it one? You have a big ceremony with everything else to look forward to.”
A second backed them up saying: “The legal bit is short, dull, and very functional. The registrars are professional but they only have a quick interview with you beforehand and there’s no time/space to really personalise the ceremony.
“It was still memorable, of course it was, there’s no way it is as special as THE DAY when you have all your best people, the rings, your music and readings, and your fabulous outfits.”