Nine tips for better orgasms every woman (and man) should know – including the common mistake with your bedsheets
TIRED of faking it? You’re not alone.
Going all the way with your partner is special but it’s not always a level playing field.
On average, men across the UK experience orgasms 20 per cent more than women during sex.
And it doesn’t end there – research shows that only a quarter (27%) of women cross the finish line on their own weekly, compared to nearly half (47%) of men.
This is what’s known as the ‘orgasm gap,’ and with National Orgasm Day coming up later this month, we’re on a mission to close it.
But it’s not just your sexual skill set which may need honing. From wearing socks in the sack to painting your walls purple, Sun Sexpert Georgette Culley reveals quirky sex tips to get you screaming yes, yes, yes!
Wear socks
The humble cotton numbers might seem like the least sexy item to wear when seducing your partner, but they can actually spice up your sex life, research shows.
Keeping your tootsies warm boosts blood circulation throughout your body, including to those all-important erogenous zones, increasing sensitivity and upping your chances of crossing the finishing line.
Perfect the temp
When it comes to hitting the G-spot, temperature is key. You don’t want to be too hot or too cold, as this can make you uncomfortable and ruin your chances of climaxing.
Experts believe the perfect room temperature is, er, 69 degrees Fahrenheit (20 Celsius).
So grab a thermometer and make sure the room is just right before you seduce your partner. It’s science, baby!
Cold shower
While we are on the temperature theme, a cold shower before sex can kickstart your libido, studies show.
Yes, you heard that right – cold water therapy can boost testosterone levels and improve sexual health, making it a win-win for both sexes.
So next time you want to turn up the heat, skip the hot bath and run a cold shower instead. You’re welcome.
Paint the walls purple
Forget painting the walls red! Purple is the real sexy colour. In a survey of 2,000 adults, the amount of sex people had varied by the colour of their bedroom and bedding.
People with purple rooms had sex about 3.49 times a week, followed by red (3.18), sky blue (3.14), pink (3.02), and black (2.99).
So grab a paintbrush and go purple! You might just find yourself getting lucky more often…
Have a cuppa
Most of us grab a drink to loosen up between the sheets, but alcohol actually slows down the nervous system, making orgasms harder to reach.
On the flip side, a good cuppa or a coffee revs up your nervous system. Studies show caffeine can actually help men perform better in the bedroom, by boosting testosterone levels and lowering chances of erectile dysfunction.
Go bananas
The phallic fruit has long been associated with sex – but they’re not all style and no substance.
Bananas are packed with nutrients, including potassium – which can boost the production of testosterone, the hormone that cranks up your sex drive and helps you last longer in bed.
So, next time you’re planning a steamy night, don’t forget to grab a banana or two.
Sleep nude
Ditching your comfy PJs could actually boost your sex life life and deepen your bond with your partner.
Skin-to-skin contact enhances the release of oxytocin, the love hormone, which helps reduce stress and heightens intimacy.
Going sans clothes can also lead to more spontaneous moments of passion, easing the pressure and potentially increasing your chances of orgasm. What’s not to love?
Sex up your sheets
When you’re turning up the heat in the bedroom, breathable sheets are a must. Natural or semi-natural materials like cotton, bamboo, Tencel, modal, silk and linen are ideal.
Avoid 100 per cent polyester sheets – they’re hot and rough. And steer clear of synthetic satin sheets – they’re slippery and terrible at absorbing sweat.
The comfier you are, the more likely you are to orgasm, according to research.
Sex stats
Men are on average orgasming 20% more than women during sex.
Heterosexual women are the orgasming the least
51% of women said they need to be comfortable with their partner to achieve an orgasm
*This research surveyed 2,000 adults in the UK was carried out by OnePoll, on behalf of underwear company Lounge.
Laving it
Scent is a game-changer in the bedroom, and we’re not just talking about your aftershave.
Lavender, the unsung hero, can help you relax, boost your mood, and lower anxiety and depression – perfect for boosting libido and, yes, even enhancing erections, studies show.
Whether you opt for an aromatherapy burner or sneak a few drops of lavender oil under your pillow, you’ll be on your way to a more fragrant and, ahem, fruitful night.