I cannot tolerate socialising with my wife’s sexist and rude friend

DEAR DEIDRE: I DREAD socialising with a couple we’ve known for years because of the husband’s lewd behaviour.

I am 54 and my wife is 52. Her friend’s husband is a pain in the neck.

He is always telling rude jokes and boasts about his sexual past whenever his wife leaves the room.

We see them once a month or so but I have had enough.

The last time we met he commented on my wife’s figure and said she looked really sexy.

He has sent my wife inappropriate videos too.

I have told my wife I am uncomfortable with this sort of behaviour and don’t want to go back there.

But she makes me feel bad if we don’t go and we end up arguing. I told her that if we go again I will end up punching him.

So should I stand my ground or go in order to keep my wife happy?

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DEIDRE SAYS: This man’s behaviour is totally inappropriate but your wife’s friend can’t make her husband change.

There is room for compromise so suggest to your wife that she sees her friend alone – without either partner getting involved.

That way neither you nor your wife have to encounter this man and she can happily see her friend without needing to get either of you involved.

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