I’m a stay-at-home mom but motherhood is a drag – my kids’ tantrums ruin anything fun and I think about divorce daily
BEING a parent isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, and one mom said she’s fed up with the daily routine.
The fed-up mom revealed that she was even considering divorce and calling it quits.
She opened up about her parenting struggles in a post.
“I just don’t like motherhood anymore,” she said.
The stay-at-home mom called the responsibility a “drag.”
“Nothing is fun, and if I/we even attempt a fun activity, it’s ruined by a tantrum by one of the kids,” she explained.
“[My] husband got annoyed that we went to the park; it was hot, so I was sweating through my jeans and took [the] baby home after 20 minutes while he stayed with our toddler.
“I don’t even like the park. After years of doing it daily with our older kid, I’ve grown to hate it, so we stay home the majority of the time.”
Despite having a playroom and a backyard, the mom explained that she felt guilty for not taking her kids out.
“At least he’s not glued to a screen. Sometimes, I feel like I shouldn’t even be a mom,” she said.
She mourned the early stages of her relationship and revealed that they may have rushed things along.
“Our marriage went fast, got pregnant quickly and married a year later, so I don’t feel like we really had time to enjoy being a couple and jumped into parenthood together,” she said.
“Now I just feel like roommates. We’re still pretty young, so I think about divorce almost daily, but he doesn’t want to.”
The mom believed that motherhood would be easier if she were on her own.
“I just can’t help but think about how much simpler and peaceful life would be as a single mom, one less person to worry about, and at least I’d have some time alone to decompress,” she said.
“I see sweet, loving marriages/relationships around us in friends and wonder if we’ll ever get back to that.
Our marriage went fast, got pregnant quickly and married a year later, so I don’t feel like we really had time to enjoy being a couple and jumped into parenthood together.
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“As the years go by, I get more and more doubtful and resentful; for no particular reason, I just hate everything he does or says.
“I don’t even think it’s a rut because we’ve been on this whirlwind of kids and marriage for six years and stuck in the same feelings and same arguments with no progress.
“How would I even cope with staring all over from scratch? Like I don’t even feel like I could tell him to leave and separate because I haven’t earned an income in years, but I obviously can’t afford to get my own place.”
Moms shared their condolences and their advice for the next steps she could take.
“I think you would benefit from therapy, honestly. A lot of these are common feelings, but some break my heart; it sounds like you need someone to talk to regularly,” said one.
“Maybe you guys would benefit from couples as well and learn how to communicate again.”
“It sounds less of a ‘motherhood’ issue and more of a relationship issue, especially when you said that you’d rather be a single mom,” agreed another.
“It sounds like you’re overworked and tired, mama. You need some ‘me time’ asap! And I agree with other advice; it’d be beneficial to look deeper into your relationship with your spouse.
“Some couples are open to therapy, others aren’t, but whatever the case for you and your spouse, I believe there are some long overdue conversations that need to be had.”