My boyfriend’s home has a horrendous stench and he never cleans it

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend never cleans his messy home.

Every time I walk into the house, I’m greeted with a horrendous stench.

I can’t relax until I’ve given it a clean and grabbed the vacuum cleaner.

We’re both 30, and I can’t bear being surrounded by filth, so I clean up his kitchen and bathroom because he doesn’t care.

I’m often cleaning up thick grime that has been there for days, even weeks.

However, I’m beginning to realise that I’m effectively working as his cleaner for free.

It takes me hours, and it’s always a mess again when I return.

I’ve spoken to him about it, but he always shrugs off my worries.

How do I get him to clean his home?

DEIDRE SAYS: I think your boyfriend will clean his home – eventually.

At some point, the mess and grime will get too much, even for him, and he’ll pick up a Hoover.

The more you clean for him, the less he will do.

I’m sure if you stop visiting until it is cleaned, he’ll get the message.