I want to leave my sugar daddy for a younger man but I’ll miss the sex and gifts

DEAR DEIDRE: I’m thinking of telling my sugar daddy that I’ve met a younger man and to finish with him. I’ll miss the sex and the gifts though.

I’m a woman of 40 and I’ve been seeing a married man of 57 for two years. His wife has a disability so they can’t have sex but he loves her and won’t commit to me.

Our relationship is friends with benefits. We have sex and he buys me expensive jewellery. I don’t complain but I do feel unfulfilled.

My sister introduced me to one of her colleagues at her 30th birthday party.

He’s 36 and great fun. Even though he’s a little younger than me we have a real spark between us. Perhaps he’s my Mr Right. Should I tell my lover that our arrangement is now over?

DEIDRE SAYS: Your current relationship isn’t giving you anything but sex and jewellery and you know you’re worth more than being somebody’s booty-call.

This relationship will never change – he’s been clear about that – so if you’re looking for a real partnership, it would be better for you to end it. My support pack on Ending A Relationship will show you how.

You will then be free to develop this relationship with the guy you met at the party, if this is where you feel your heart is.

My support pack called Your Lover Not Free which explains more about these sorts of relationships.