I was madly in love until I discovered my partner had a fiance of 10 years, she was right under my nose the whole time
A WOMAN has revealed how she found out she was the other woman and the love of her life was already engaged.
Taking to social media, the woman recalled the moment she found out her partner was already set to get married and the woman was hiding right under her nose.
She though she met the love of her life but her world would come crashing down[/caption]She revealed the couple were together for four years and ‘really believed he was my person.’
Earlier this year on her birthday, he proposed making her ‘the happiest girl alive.’
But her fairy tale was about to come crumbling down as she was unaware he already had a fiance he had been with for 9.5 years.
The pair decided to have a long engagement and buy a home together before sealing the deal when she noticed cracks start to surface.
She said he became weird about her visiting his families home as his mum wasn’t well, while she now sees it as a red flag, she decided to believe him.
They began to plan their future together, setting a date for the wedding and opening up a joint savings account to save for their wedding.
During this time, she revealed they spent most of their time together and was living in engagement bliss when a form came back saying there was an incorrect amount of people put down as living in his household.
She decided to investigate and found another woman living in his families home that she had no idea about.
Confronting her partner she got no answers so took to social media where she found images of her fiance and another woman together.
After calling the woman she confirmed her ‘worst nightmare’ that the pair were together and had been for years.
The other woman revealed the man had said she was a ‘deranged woman’ and was stalking him.
Horrified by the revelations, the heartbroken woman had no idea how to move forward with her life.
Since the phone call, she hadn’t heard from her partner and it turns out he and the other woman had decided to stay together.
The post has gone viral on social media and has left hundreds of people stunned.
One person wrote: “Why did he propose as well like he didn’t need to do all that.”
Another commented: “How does someone have time to do something like this?”
“This should be a crime. I’m so sorry this happened to you,” penned a third.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “This is madness can’t believe people can live two lives like this!! So sad and feel so sorry for you, sending you loads of love & so happy it didn’t happen longer.”
“How do men have the time for this?” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “This is wild, how anyone can keep up a double life like that for so long.”
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