My girlfriend dumped me because I went to a concert with my ex
DEAR DEIDRE: THE love of my life broke up with me after I went to a concert with my ex.
I met my girlfriend last year, months after my ex and I split up.
The three of us are all in our mid-twenties.
When we were together, my ex and I arranged to go to some music festivals with our friendship group.
We’d been looking forward to festival season, so when we split up we decided to stay civil and honour those commitments.
The tickets alone cost us hundreds of pounds.
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When I met my girlfriend, I explained about the tickets and said she felt she could trust me.
The season began and I was enjoying every moment, there were no issues from my girlfriend, or ex.
Then, when I went to the last gig of the season I received the message that changed everything.
Out of the blue, my girlfriend asked me for space, saying she felt she was second best and that she needed to rethink our relationship.
The day after, she dumped me.
My girlfriend was cheated on previously and I believe she’ll never be able to accept that my ex is a part of my life.
I understand why she’s worried but this isn’t the case with me, the only woman I see and am attracted to is her.
Now everything is ruined and I’m desperate to win her back – but how do I do this?
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DEIDRE SAYS: While I have no doubt you are innocent, I can see why your ex felt insecure.
This is an unusual situation, which would make most women feel worried.
She may also have spoken to friends or family members who may have reinforced the message that your arrangement was a strange one.
If this was the other way around, would you accept this behaviour from your girlfriend?
I would try and tell her, whether through a phone call, meeting or text, how unhappy you’re feeling and that you’re truly sorry for not realising how this situation was making her feel.
This may help her to see things for what they are, and my support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help you get this message across.
But I’m afraid if she is adamant about the split, you will need to respect her decision.