My boyfriend asked for a threesome but it backfired because he couldn’t take the lead & now I’ve got the ick

BLOSSOM has been dating her boyfriend for nine months, and felt she always had a grounded mature connection.

But more recently the pair, who have “clicked since day one,” found that they wanted to bring some excitement into their relationship and explore each other’s sexual fantasies. 

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Her partner explained this was a threesome, but never wanted to pressure her into doing this and was “happy for it to be just a fantasy.” 

As time went on Blossom, who wishes to remain anonymous, felt more comfortable with him sexually and eventually she said she would like to explore this with him.

Blossom revealed her story in a lengthy post on Mumsnet. 

She says: “He was clearly very excited and got to work straight away on joining dating sites and sites aimed for swinging / threesomes.

“I left all that side to him as I’m not really into messaging people back and forth.

“Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago he messaged me and told me he has found someone, she would like to explore with us as a couple.

“He sent me the conversation between them and the photos they had exchanged, it was all very open and he said I could change my mind at any time – which I have felt I can do.

“We had arranged to meet her this Friday.”

Once the couple had met the third woman, Blossom revealed that she “found her very attractive and there was an instant chemistry between us.”

She continues: “We all chatted for a while and then she made it clear she would like to take things further that evening so we booked into a hotel.

“The thing is, she seemed very keen on me and was all over me, kissing, touching etc.

“The man I’m seeing was initially into it. 

“He then turned and said to her, ‘Can I join in now?’ and she said ;no, not yet I just want to be with her for a minute,’ so he respected that.

“As things progressed she only wanted me, so I stopped and asked her, are you actually gay? Or not attracted to my boyfriend? 

“That’s ok if either of those things are correct however we were after a threesome, she then kissed him for a while and they started doing other things together.

I walked her out to the cab, gave a hug and said goodbye

Blossom

“I could see her actually wince though as if she just was not attracted to him in the slightest she kept turning back towards me and when he put his hand on her leg to get involved she said no and moved his hand off her.”

Blossom revealed that the situation felt “a bit awkward,” however, she was “enjoying being with her.”

Blossom continued: “I looked over at my boyfriend and he looked very angry, I had never seen him like this before.

“She then went to the bathroom and he turned to me and said that he doesn’t want the threesome to continue and that he was going to offer to pay for her cab.

Got the ick

“He was very short with me and it was clear he wasn’t having a good time so I agreed.

“When she came out of the bathroom I was polite and friendly and said it wasn’t working for us as a couple and we would call her a cab. 

“I was so embarrassed about my boyfriend’s behaviour as he was grumpy now and didn’t speak to her before she left.

“I walked her out to the cab, gave a hug and said goodbye.

“When I walked back into the hotel room my boyfriend was very cross and said ‘she’s obsessed with you!’

“I said to him I’m so confused. This is your fantasy. You have said for a long time that you wanted to see me with another woman.

I had never seen him behave like this before now

Blossom

“I understand she was more attracted to me then him, however I couldn’t help this.”

Blossom has found herself to now be in a predicament. 

She says: “Anyway his behaviour has now given me the ick and I don’t think I want to see him anymore.

“We went to sleep that evening and the next morning we went for breakfast. 

“He moaned about how expensive the bill for breakfast was (it really wasn’t).

“I had never seen him behave like this before now.

“I offered to pay for it just to keep him quiet and to stop the moaning although it was his turn to pay as we often take turns.

“I paid for the breakfast we got up to leave and his whole attitude was miserable.

“I tried talking to him and he was having none of it, again something I’ve never seen in him before as we have always communicated well.

“By Saturday afternoon I was ready to go home, we had the weekend planned together but something had switched inside me after seeing him like this and I made my excuses and said I needed to get back as my children were coming back early.

“I made it up but I just had to leave, I couldn’t stand to be around him.

“I feel like there’s no going back from this.”

Nothing worse than a sulking man child

Mumsnet comment

The post attracted a lot of attention with many rushing to the comments section to share their thoughts. 

One wrote: “He’s in a huff because his fantasy – which he thought was watching you and another woman, but likely was actually the two of you all over him – flopped and he’s made an idiot of himself.

“His reaction means to me you should dump him. If something goes wrong in your sex life you and your partner should be able to laugh it off and move on.

“Nothing worse than a sulking man child.”

Another added: “You’re better off without him.

“No doubt he got his idea from p**n, and thought he’d be getting two women pleasuring him and making orgasm noises.”