I’m happily married but love swinging – we host parties, people say we have no self-respect but at least we’re honest
A WOMAN revealed why she and her husband enjoy a swinger lifestyle.
The happily married couple shared an insight into their lives, including the parties they host to meet other like-minded pairs.
In her viral video, TikTok user Olivia who goes by Vista Wife (@vistawife) explained how she met her husband Gage and eventually began swinging.
Speaking on Love Don’t Judge, the pair recounted about how they met on a night out in Leeds when Gage was on leave from the military.
Olivia, who “loves a man in uniform,” was eager to meet up again and the pair arranged more dates.
They recalled how, after their first time sleeping togther, pillow talk led to them discussing Olivia’s sexuality.
She revealed that she was “bisexual or at least bi-curious” and the pair decided to explore together.
Olivia described Gage as her “rock” and the “one who gets the party started.”
“[I] couldn’t imagine doing it without him,” Olivia explained.
She added that it can also be difficult to find single women in the swinging world.
The couple’s original rules were that they would “play” as a pair or Olivia would “play” individually,” with Gage never doing it alone.
However, after seven years of swinging, they described their current attitude as “free-flowing,” “very fluid,” and having “100% communication.”
They described swinging as the “best decision ever” and even found a way to make their “discreet hobby” into a business.
The pair developed the SwingHub app, which provides a safe platform for people to meet and converse with each once they have been verified.
App users are also unable to screenshot or share another person’s photos.
They explained that the app was their way of “modernising the lifestyle.”
The couple regularly host swingers parties that range between 150 to 300 people to help others meet each other.
What is polyamory?
Polyamory is the practice of having romantic relationships with more than one person at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of all parties.
It can refer to relationships where one person has multiple partners or spouses, or where all parties are in a relationship with each other, for example in a throuple.
According to You Gov, 6.8% of people in the UK have been in a polyamorous relationship.
And while Olivia and Gage’s families have been supportive of their lifestyle, not everyone is so open-minded.
“People judge us because we swap partners,” Gage told their audience.
He explained how they are often told they have “no morals or self-respect.”
Gage read out a comment which claimed that swinging must feel like getting “used.”
“I actually like feeling used, thank you very much,” Olivia said.
The couple joked that they are often told to have an affair “like normal people.”
However, they pointed out that swinging together means there are “no reprecussions” and keeps their relationship “stronger than ever.”