My brother’s fiancé called me ‘selfish’ when I wouldn’t let her wear my wedding dress – she even tried to sneak a try-on
BRIDES have been known to make some ridiculous demands but one woman couldn’t believe what her future sister-in-law asked of her.
The bride-to-be took the “something borrowed” tradition to far when she demanded her fiancé’s sister hand over her own wedding dress.
In a Reddit post, the unnamed user recounted the entire situation, including how the bride tried to sneakily try on the frock after she’d already said no.
The 29-year-old explained that she had gotten married three years previously.
She found the perfect dress with the help of her mother, who had since passed away.
“I had this beautiful dress that my mum worked extra hours to help me afford,” she explained.
“It’s not designer or anything crazy expensive, but it’s special to me because my mum passed away last year, and now it’s all I have left of her.“
The woman went on to reveal that her younger brother was set to marry his partner the following month.
She revealed that she had never been close with his girlfriend as she was known to be quite “bold.”
“She says what she wants, takes what she wants, and doesn’t really think about how it affects other people,” the poster wrote.
Apparently, the woman applied this mentality when it came to finding a wedding dress.
“A couple weeks ago, she called me and said she needed to borrow my wedding dress for her wedding,” the Reddit user said.
The woman explained that she was “shocked” since they weren’t the same dress size, adding that a wedding dress felt too “personal” to share.
“I told her no, and explained why the dress was so important to me,” the Redditor revealed.
“I even offered to help her shop for her own dress or lend her money if she needed, but she just said: ‘I can’t believe how selfish you are’ and hung up on me.“
Her brother then called her to tell her that she was “ruining” the wedding.
His partner had already told people she would be wearing the dress, even posting pictures of it on Facebook.
How to pick the perfect wedding dress
Wedding season is in full swing, but when it comes to picking your perfect dress, most new brides-to-be probably feel a bit clueless.
As someone who’s tying the knot in August 2024, Josie Griffiths, deputy digital Fabulous editor and bride-to-be, has shared her top tips…
- Give yourself time – unless you’re a sample size, dresses can take months to even arrive. Don’t stress yourself out by looking too late, in my opinion dress shopping should be the second thing on your list, right after finding a venue.
- Visit multiple shops – you don’t want to be buying on your first visit.
- But not too many – like a f***boy who can’t stop swiping on Tinder, having too much choice isn’t going to help you find The One.
- Take people with you – women who will be honest but also hype you up, unlike the mean relatives on Say Yes To The Dress, and ideally people from different areas of your life who won’t automatically say the same thing. I shopped with my mum and two best friends, who didn’t know each other and had different styles.
- Think it over – I returned to the shop before making my final decision on the dress I chose, re-trying it with my second favourite to make sure I was certain. It’s an expensive purchase, and you can’t send it back like you might your next Asos order, so take time to mull it over.
The poster’s brother called her “petty” over setting boundaries but that wasn’t the worst of it.
Accorording to the Reddit user, the bride showed up at her home while she was out and tried to convince her husband to “just let her try it on.”
Thankfully, her husband refused, leading the poster’s brother to say they had “ganged up” on his future wife.
The bride’s mother also got involved, reaching out to the woman to tell her to “do the right thing.”
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“The entitlement of this woman is astonishing. Stick to your no,” wrote one commenter.
“You have no obligation to lend your wedding dress to anyone, regardless of their relationship to you,” pointed out another person.
“That certainly is BOLD of her. No means no and she should be an adult who can hear and understand the word,” commented a third reader.