My boyfriend’s dad snogged me in the toilets at a family lunch – then we had SEX & now I can’t stop
A YOUNG woman shared the predicament she found herself in after beginning an affair with her boyfriend’s dad.
She revealed that she is now torn between both men and doesn’t know what to do.
In a Reddit post, the unnamed user offered some background to the situation.
She acknowledged that what she did is “unforgivable,” adding that she was not trying to justify her actions.
The original poster shared that she has been with her boyfriend for nearly three years and had even moved back to his home country after just a year of dating while living abroad.
“The language here is totally different from mine or any other language I speak, and I have been struggling learning it and making friends,” she explained.
According to the Reddit user, her boyfriend has “always been very supportive,” and helped her out in social situations.
She added that his family are “pretty much the same” and have “always found a way to communicate.”
However, she revealed that she had still been feeling “very isolated” since she can only see her own family once a year.
She explained that her boyfriend was also pressuring her to leave her job and have kids.
“[We’ve been] talking about it a lot lately but I’m not sure I’m ready for this yet,” the Redditor said.
She revealed that at a recent family celebration, the entire group had gathered at a restaurant for lunch.
The couple had arrived 45 minutes late to the meal, with the poster’s boyfriend “brushing it off.”
“I told him to apologise as, in my opinion, this was extremely rude and we ruined the mood of the all day by getting everyone worked up,” she said.
“And in front of everyone, he told me to stop being a b***h about it, sit down, and stop making a scene.”
The woman recalled how she felt “extremely shocked” as he never talked to me this way before, then” and left to go cry in the bathroom.
“I don’t think I’ve ever felt this humiliated in my entire life,” she explained.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
After 15 or 20 minutes, her boyfriend’s father came knocking at the door to see how she was doing.
The 50-year-old said he was very sorry for his son’s behaviour, and tried to convince her to come back out.
“I was feeling so bad I could not express myself properly,” she said.
The original poster then revealed that the older man kissed her as she struggled to find words.
“That was way too much for me and I left immediately and took a taxi back home,” she said.
However, two days later she met up with her boyfriend’s dad to discuss what happened and they ended up having sex.
She revealed they have been seeing each other “pretty much everyday ever since.”
“The more it goes, the worst I feel,” she said.
The Redditor added that she’s “always had a little crush on him since” they first met.
However, she explained that she feels bad about what she is doing to the family, revealing that she feels caught between the two men.
“I want to confess what happened and be honest with [my boyfriend], but it would hurt him beyond imagination, and it would destroy the entire family,” she said.
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“Jesus lady that’s f**ked, you don’t even have to tell him. Just leave the relationship, and obviously keep away from the dad,” advised one reader.
“You need to tell him so he can not waste his life being with you. Period,” wrote another commenter.
“The truth will come out regardless,” pointed out a third Reddit user.