16 signs your job is destroying your marriage

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Maybe you're a workaholic and spend 80 hours a week at the office. Perhaps you come home every night wanting to complain about your micromanaging boss or annoying coworkers. Whatever the culprit, our careers often affect our personal relationships — and in extreme cases, they can even ruin marriages.

"Because we spend the majority of our waking hours Monday through Friday at the office, our jobs tend to easily spill into our personal lives," says Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert, leadership coach, and author of" Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job." "And it's natural, for instance, to come home wanting to vent," she says, "but this kind of thing can wear thin on your partner over time, as they may feel helpless."

She says frequently bringing the office into your personal life can be stressful for both of you, and that it's important to know if your job is affecting your marriage.

"You want to recognize red flags early that your work is impacting your marriage, so you aren't blindsided by your spouse before it's too late to make any changes," adds Michael Kerr, an international business speaker and author of "The Humor Advantage." 

Here are 16 signs your job is ruining your marriage:

You put work priorities ahead of your relationship.

If you find yourself opting out of activities you would normally engage in with your spouse, such as going to a movie, visiting friends or just enjoying time together, you could be placing undue pressure on the relationship, Taylor explains.

You're too tired from work to spend time with your spouse. 

If work is sucking all of your energy out of you, your partner will be affected and take note.

Your spouse has become your career therapist.

If you find yourself constantly seeking advice from your spouse on your next "move" at work, you could be hurting your marriage, Taylor says.