A successful entrepreneur and best-selling author explains 8 things you should never say while networking

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In some ways, networking has recently changed.

It used to be reserved for gatherings and parties, but today networking can happen online as well.

With all the increased communication and casual aspects of the internet, knowing safe and effective things to say is challenging at best.

At worst, you can miss the mark with a comment and even offend the very people they are trying to impress.

Ignorance, confusion, and nerves often lead people to make major verbal mistakes that cannot be undone.

If you slow down and think about your comments, you can probably avoid committing an unnecessary faux pas.

In case you don't have the time to think carefully before opening your mouth or typing that next message, you might want to memorize eight of the worst things to say during networking that you should avoid at all costs.

1. Profanity

Swearing used to be for bars and sports arenas, but these days it is tolerated more in business. That said, don't be so quick to throw off your favorite four-letter word at every chance you get. You have no way of knowing how the other person will react.

Some people might find the use of such words aggressive, especially if the delivery is not well handled. Moreover, it might make you look unprofessional and lacking in discretion. Keep the swearing limited, unless you really know the audience or live in New York City, like me.

2. 'I'm struggling ...'

The moment you start talking about how things are not going your way, you project a sense of insecurity. Networking is about opportunities for growth and value, not desperation. People don't want to engage with more needy people. Rather than discussing your failures, engage people with your aspirations and desires. That will transmit a sense of drive that is very attractive to others.

3. 'Can you get me a job?'

Unless someone offers right away, requesting employment puts others in an uncomfortable, awkward position. They may not know you well enough, and you are asking them to put their reputation at stake. Use networking to begin conversations and relationships that will show off your value. If you are truly worthy, the time will come to discuss how to get you aboard.