9 things successful people do when they meet someone for the first time

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Preparing for meetings is critical, whether you're having them internally or doing a deal with a critical partner. It's no less important to prepare for a first meeting with anyone.

You never know in advance the roles you and people you meet will play in each other's lives. Research suggests that you make a first impression in the "blink of an eye." Not only are people judging you, but you are judging them, often without being aware of the process.

Such an approach leaves enormous room for accident on the part of both you and the other person. What if the person you're meeting could, in the right circumstances, become a staunch friend, love interest, business partner, mentor, or ally in some cause?

Stopping human perception is impossible. However, you can be aware of what is happening and strive for ways to undertake a meeting with more control. Here are nine actions that can help you be more successful.

Do research ahead of time

Some meetings are accidental, but many aren't. Do the research you can to see what you can learn about the other person. Maybe it's professional experience, background, or personal interests. Make an effort before the meeting that might influence how you see it and the other person.

Prepare for the context

There's a big difference between a blind date, a first discussion with a new supplier, and a job interview (no matter which side you represent). To understand the dynamics of meeting someone, consider the context and realize that you're seeing only a limited view.

Remember that no one is comfortable

Few people are really comfortable meeting other people. There are fragile egos and self-images at play. If you're uncomfortable, recognize that the other person is as well and focus on putting him or her at ease. You'll forget your own problems in the process.