Wild sex with male and female escorts is much more exciting than with my wife

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX with escorts is an amazing turn-on for me. My wife agreed to us having sex last Friday night but I still booked to see a girl on the Saturday.

I love my wife and enjoy sex with her, when I get the chance, but I’m into BDSM stuff and escort girls are much more adventurous.

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I must have seen about 20 now — and some guys, too.

I am 35 and have always had a high sex drive. My wife is 33 but not very interested in sex. She went right off it for a while after each of our children was born.

We have two daughters aged eight and three.

Gradually our sex life has revived but it is never exciting and she doesn’t show enthusiasm.

I always get the feeling she is doing it because she thinks she is supposed to and risks losing me if she doesn’t say yes sometimes.

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Sex is much more exciting with the escort girls who are up for almost anything I suggest. They love sex, and I’ve discovered a website for gay and bisexual men. I’m straight but I got really turned on talking with men and sharing nude pics of myself aroused.

In the end I couldn’t resist and have met up with male escorts, too. It’s just about the wild sex for me — I certainly don’t want a relationship with another man, so I know I am not gay.

Of course my encounters with the escort girls, let alone the guys, are one huge secret. My wife would be horrified if she knew.

She thinks I just meet up with mates for a drink or that I am working late. I love my wife and our girls so the last thing I want is to lose them but I’m hooked on all this exciting sex and I’m worried my life is going to explode in my face.

DEIDRE SAYS: Carry on like this and that’s exactly what will happen. Stop deceiving yourself.

Don’t kid yourself those escorts really enjoy all the “wild” sex. They are doing it because they need the money, are often being exploited and come from grim backgrounds. Imagine your daughters feeling pressured into that work when they are older.

You insist you’re not gay but our sexuality is on a spectrum and you’re clearly bisexual.

You say you are hooked, but are you really in the grip of an uncontrollable addiction or just weak-willed?

My e-leaflet Addicted To Sex? will help you decide and you can find the Kickstart free online self-help course at sexaddictionhelp.co.uk.

If your wife doesn’t seem to relish sex, maybe it’s just you have not yet discovered what really turns her on. Try the ideas in my e-leaflet How To Thrill A Woman In Bed.

But remember she has a home and children to cope with. Do all you can to help and she will have more time for you.

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