I never look forward to having sex with my fella because he’s so quick to finish

DEAR DEIDRE: I NEED to spice up my sex life. I adore my boyfriend but I don’t look forward to having sex with him.

We have only been together for four months. I am 23 and he is 25. Sex should be great but he ejaculates within two or three minutes, then it’s all over.

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I have to secretly use a vibrator to finish myself off after my boyfriend ejaculates after just a few minutes[/caption]

I have to pretend I have orgasmed, then finish myself off secretly with my vibrator, which he does not know I have.

I am not allowed to have a say on how we have sex and it’s always the same position. I send him stuff I find online to get him to twig, but he ignores it.

I don’t know what to do. I love him but the sex is a disaster for me.

DEIDRE SAYS: Hinting has not worked, so you need to spell it out.

Tell him you love him and he could be a great lover if he makes a few changes. Ask him for more foreplay and guide him to the right touches.

He probably worries secretly because he ejaculates so quickly.

My e-leaflet Helping Your Man To Last Longer explains how you can work on this together.

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