I turned down the perfect job for the girl I love, but now she wants to be ‘friends’ — should I drop her?

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM in love with a girl and turned down a very good job for her sake but she now says we are better as friends.

I’m 29. She’s 32 and divorced with a daughter aged eight. We felt a connection the moment we met. We went on a couple of dates then had some family days out which were the best times of all.

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Then she said she wanted to “cool the romantic side down” though we carried on meeting and even got sexy a couple of times with her ­taking the lead.

After I’d been seeing her for three months, she asked me to turn down a job I was offered. It was right up my street but she said it was too far away.

Now she says we should just stay as friends and “let things develop ­naturally”. Should I drop her or give it more time?

DEIDRE SAYS: Point out that she’s not being fair. She led you to believe there was something on offer worth more than a job.

Now she’s re-drawn the line in the sand and says you’re just friends.

She can’t have it both ways. If she’s not sure what she wants, you need to be sure in your own mind that you put your interests first.

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