I’m too nervous to ask out a co-worker 20 years younger than me – I’d be happy being friends with benefits

DEAR DEIDRE: THERE is a girl who works at the same garden centre as me who I fancy loads. She hasn’t got a boyfriend but has a “friends with benefits” thing with a lad she knows. She has worked here for the past six months. She is blonde, in her mid-twenties and turns all the […]

DEAR DEIDRE: THERE is a girl who works at the same garden centre as me who I fancy loads.

She hasn’t got a boyfriend but has a “friends with benefits” thing with a lad she knows.

Alamy

She has worked here for the past six months. She is blonde, in her mid-twenties and turns all the heads.

I am 45, single and in charge of the trees at work. This girl is a bit of a flirt and that is fine with me.

I am thinking we could have an FWB thing but I’m too shy to ask.

She’s told me she is seeing a band with some friends next weekend and asked me if I want to go.

I fancied going but said no as my feelings are too strong to see her with other men.

DEIDRE SAYS: Be careful. It sounds like you might be getting obsessed.

This girl is friendly and perhaps she is a flirt but it is safe to assume that is as far as it goes.

Her personal life, frankly, is not your affair. For both of your sakes, please don’t start to hope or expect that it may include you.

You would be much better off building up some friendships with people nearer to your age and at your stage of life.

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