My violent wife kicked me out and is seeing another guy but I miss her

DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH she drinks way too much and gets violent, my wife is my soulmate. She’s had a tough life. She’s thrown me out in the middle of the night many times during a row. But she also made me laugh out loud every day and we did just click. I am 41, she’s […]

DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH she drinks way too much and gets violent, my wife is my soulmate.

She’s had a tough life. She’s thrown me out in the middle of the night many times during a row.

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But she also made me laugh out loud every day and we did just click. I am 41, she’s 36.

A few months back she threw a plate at me and I ended up in A&E having stitches.

Neighbours called the police several times too.

Eventually she said we must split up and I moved out, but I’ve been working towards us getting back together.

Then she dropped the bombshell she was seeing another guy.

I went to the house and his car was in the drive. They’re pushing on with their relationship.

How can she be so happy when I am miserable?

I am lost and lonely.

DEIDRE SAYS: Staying with an abusive and violent partner who has repeatedly hurt you will likely lead to further violence and abuse.

Your wife is using her past and alcohol to justify her behaviour, but there is very likely a root cause she hides from.

Now you have separated, some support can help you move on from your experience.

Contact the Men’s Advice Line on 0808 801 0327 or online at mensadviceline.org.uk

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