I’ve started drinking too much because my controlling ex is still ruining my life

DEAR DEIDRE: I LEFT my partner because she was so controlling but somehow she is still running my life a year later. We’re both 46. We were together for 20 years but I only stayed so long for our daughter’s sake. I left when she went to university. I wanted a fresh start but I […]

DEAR DEIDRE: I LEFT my partner because she was so controlling but somehow she is still running my life a year later.

We’re both 46. We were together for 20 years but I only stayed so long for our daughter’s sake. I left when she went to university.

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I wanted a fresh start but I lost my job when the store I worked for closed.

Now I feel like I have nothing to live for.

My ex won’t agree to sell our house, can’t buy me out and won’t let me buy her out. I can’t move on and she is still in control.

I still love her but she can be a nasty piece of work and I know I’m better off without her.

But I am going nowhere fast and drinking too much.

DEIDRE SAYS: Stop the drinking and you will feel much stronger and clearer about how to turn your life around.

Do it now, if only for your daughter’s sake.

Contact Calm, the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for support (thecalmzone.net, 0800 585858).

Then work to pick off the issues one by one.

My e-leaflet Help For Job-Hunters has lots of ideas.
And check out the housing situation with citizensadvice.org.uk.

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