My wife and I are having sex again after eight years but I only last a minute

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I didn’t have sex for eight years after she had our children. Now she wants it again I can’t last for more than a minute. She suffered from especially severe forms of postnatal depression and premenstrual problems. Now she’s had a hysterectomy. I trained myself over the last few years […]

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I didn’t have sex for eight years after she had our children.

Now she wants it again I can’t last for more than a minute.

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She suffered from especially severe forms of postnatal depression and premenstrual problems.

Now she’s had a hysterectomy.

I trained myself over the last few years to accept I might never have sex again and now I’m struggling. I am 38 and my wife is 36.

She is understanding as she says it’s her fault (it isn’t). Viagra doesn’t work and our GP has got no suggestions.

We have been through a lot and this won’t split us up. We don’t want to give up on us just because of the sex, as I was willing and did give up on sex for years. Can you help?

DEIDRE SAYS: How lovely that your wife has regained her sex drive.

But it is no surprise that you are extra-revved up having sex now and struggling to last long.

Do not let premature ejaculation put you off as frequent sex helps to solve this.

Try having sex again as soon as you can manage it after the first time and you will almost certainly find you last longer.

Stop sex being all about intercourse.

Explore all the other ways there are to give each other pleasure and satisfaction.

It will add quality to your sex life too.

My e-leaflet How Men Can Last Longer explains in more detail.

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