I’m married to a good man but don’t really enjoy sex any more

DEAR DEIDRE: ON the surface my husband and I are happily married, still say we love one another and have a lovely family together. But the sexual side to our marriage is strained. I have to shoulder most of the blame for this as I don’t really enjoy sex any more. When we do have it […]

DEAR DEIDRE: ON the surface my husband and I are happily married, still say we love one another and have a lovely family together.

But the sexual side to our marriage is strained.

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I have to shoulder most of the blame for this as I don’t really enjoy sex any more. When we do have it I try to engineer it finishing quickly as I get fed up.

That makes me feel guilty because my husband is a good man.

We don’t seem to have anything to talk to one another about any more either. We both work long hours and rarely get a day off together.

I fear we may fall apart soon if we can’t sort this out. We’re in our early forties and have two teenage children.

DEIDRE SAYS: I know it is hard but you must do whatever it takes to get more time together – it is either that or face losing your relationship.

Organise to do something relaxing together regularly as a couple, even if it is just a walk at the moment while most social activities are closed down.

Take a fresh look at your sex life.

Are you fed up with it because it has never been as thrilling and fulfilling for you as it could be?

Perhaps you and your husband do not really appreciate how differently men and women are hard-wired for sex.

My e-leaflet Thrilling A Woman In Bed explains.

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