Husband is obsessed with having a threesome and it makes me feel worthless
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband keeps on about having a threesome. In fact, he’s obsessed with the idea. We have had imaginary “threesomes” a number of times but I’ve told him I’m not going to do it for real. We married ten years ago and it wasn’t long before he wanted us to role-play that there […]
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband keeps on about having a threesome.
In fact, he’s obsessed with the idea. We have had imaginary “threesomes” a number of times but I’ve told him I’m not going to do it for real.
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We married ten years ago and it wasn’t long before he wanted us to role-play that there was another person with us in bed.
I wanted to keep him happy, so I went along with his wishes.
We did that for years but he now wants to have one for real.
We’re both 38 and he says that as we haven’t got kids, we need something else to keep our marriage “interesting”.
He wants a threesome with my good-looking cousin and another threesome with some man he wants me to find.
I’m very hurt over this. I’m into role play and willing to try anything naughty with him but I don’t want to share him with somebody else.
It makes me feel worthless and sad.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Please don’t feel that this is a reflection on you or feel that you should give in to him on this.
Tell him it is not going to happen and you want him to stop talking about it.
Wanting a threesome could be a sign that he is uncomfortable with intimacy and, from the sounds of it, this goes back a long way.
My e-leaflet on threesomes can help you to talk it through with him.